DEATH MAKES YOU DIE.....DO NOT DIE BEFORE YOUR DEATH......

Sounds eerie right? I want it to sound like that.. Heard about a death recently and also got to know that the sons of the deceased had told her long back to go away from their home...She did that...I feel terrible while saying this..How can anybody be so selfish and feelingless towards a mother????? Why are people becoming such barbarians while the society is getting civilized day by day???? I feel really sad:-(

I realised something when i thought of the words 'death' and 'cruelty' together... Everyone knows this but still continue to be the same.. It's simple... We know that death is inevitable and after we die it's all over... We become helpless... Have no control over anything... Cannot change the bitter feelings that people have towards us because of our ill behaviour with them during our lifetime... Death finishes it all but the feelings remain... It is completely upto us how people feel for us after our death...It is completely upto us that we do not die before our death... That is we do not die in people's hearts...It is our behaviour that decides everything... When we have to die one day and leave everything behind, then why do we dislike people?
Why do we have a grudge against people?
Why don't we realise that it is the habit and not the people that are bad?
Why do we always look at the negative side of people first and decide for ourself that he/she is bad without even getting to know that person?
Why do we argue and fight with people,be it our loved ones or anybody else,becuse of silly reasons?
Why don't we realise that life is too short to be cruel and selfish?


According to me, life and the people around you will seem good to you if you are good.. Just have a positive attitude towards people and every situation in life.. Love people unconditionally.. Ignore their flaws and appreciate their virtues.. Be good to everyone... Never say 'i hate that person'.. These four words fill life with so much of negativity... How do you hate anybody? That person is also a human being like you.. I believe that however bad a person may be, somewhere in the deepest bottoms of his heart, there is a human... It's just hidden...Find it and then see how beautiful life becomes... Trust me on this.. I have experienced it...


So basically what i am trying to say is that it is the behaviour and attitude towards people that will decide whether you will live in their hearts forever or die before your death..... Read, understand. feel and change....

INTROSPECT

Happy "moment" all of you reading this... Please smile before you start reading this post because you may be fretting with anger after its completion.hehehe :-)


I would like to pose a question to all of you..
How do you define teenage?
Stop for a while and answer this to yourself before you resume reading...
 TEENAGE...........means......
Freedom
Friends
Partying
Independence
College
Movies
Dating
etc etc etc...


I am sure most of you might have answered the same.. After all I am also a teenager so I know what teenage is all about..
But how many of us have realised that there is something missing in the above list?
Think
Think
Think for a while before reading further....
Not many of you might have guessed..
Its our "MOM" and "DAD" !!!!!!!!
Why is it that we teenagers overlook our mom and dad?
Why do friends become our top priority when it had to be mom and dad?
Why are parties with friends more appealing and enjoyable than family get-togethers?
Why have mom and dad become obstacles in our life?
Why have we stopped sitting with them for a while and having a little chat?
Why do we have the feelings of hatred and rebellion towards them?
Why can't we pay heed to their advice for once?
Why does their care seem to us like interference?
Why do we talk to them rudely?
Why do we treat them as somebody?
Why is there such a drastic change in our behaviour towards our parents when we enter into teenage?


May be none of us can answer the above question..
I'll try my hand at it...
Scientifically,its because of hormonal changes and all(as far as i know)...
Other than that, may be its because of our new-found freedom and liberty..
And,may be because of the urge to show the world that you are grown up..
Whatever it may be, it is not at all fair to treat our parents like that...Don't you all think so?
Parents are a blessing of God...
There is an adage, "you don't realise the importance of something until you lose it"..
I think there is no need for me to go in the details of it...
All of us are sufficiently capable of understanding that parents are to be treated like parents..
The following posts are about our moms and dads......
I implore all of you to read them completely and feel the feel of it...
Hope I am successful in making everyone out there wake up to the reality and change it for the good if its a case similar to the one i have described above...

MY DADDY IS THE STRONGEST!!!!!!

All of us have grown up saying this..:-)..

 It is so very true for each one of us..

We have always believed that there is nothing that dad can't do..

And dads have always proved this belief of ours true..

Never is a wish ignored however frivolous or juvenile it may be..

I feel there is this strange aura (or we can say awe) around him that makes us respect him and adore him..

Dad is the one who works tiringly hard so that we are brought up well..

Dad is the one who bears all pain silently without ever complaining..

Dad is the one who goes through myriad difficulties to see us happy..

Dad is the one who fulfills our wishes while overlooking even his needs..

Dad becomes a protective shell around us in times of trouble..

Dad is like a coconut..hard outside,soft inside..

Dad is the one on whom we can rely in times of need..

Dad is the one who can shoo away bad guys..:-)

Dad is the one who will make you feel like a princess..

Dad is the one who will not mind bearing the scorching heat of the sun to give us a warm,safe and comfortable life..

Dad is the one who helps us in making mum agree to what we say..

Dad is the one who can be strict with us so that we become ready to face life's challenges..

Dad is the one who believes 'nothing can happen to my child'..

Dad is the one who can go to any extent to prove his belief true..

Dad is the one who hides his fear to make us fearless..

Dad is the one who smiles even in times of distress to see a smile on our face..

Dad is the one who is always right for us..

Dad is the one who can never be wrong for us..

Dad is the one who compliments to encourage us..

Dad is the one who comments so that we improve..

Dad is our hero..

Why, then, has he lost his position as the strongest person in our life??

Why, then, do we always misinterpret his advice??

Why, then, do we not compliment his hardwork??

Why, then, do we not reciprocate the feelings of care and caution??

Why, then, do we think he loves us less when he doesn't express his immense affection towards us??

We have to introspect and change our rebellious feelings towards our dad.. There is always some good in whatever he says and does for us.. There is no dad who will ever let his child do something wrong in the name of pampering.. This is what we need to understand..

Let your dad be your hero for the whole of your life.. Try not to disappoint him ever.. Care for him as he does for you.. Always trust in the fact that no person on the face of planet earth can take your dad's place.. Love him unconditionally..

And always say........

                                   "MY DADDY IS THE STRONGEST"  :-)

TO WHAT EXTENT ARE WE CLEARING OUR DEBTS TOWARDS OUR MOTHER?

If there is a question put in front of me asking, "Who is that one person without whom you can't live?" , the one and only answer will be "MOM".


Mom is the one who starts loving you even before you are born..
Mom is the one who sacrifices her sleep to prevent you from sleepless nights..
Mom is the one who understands you without your saying anything..
Mom is the one who will fight for you with the whole world when you are in trouble..
Mom is the one who caters to the silliest of your needs..
Mom is the one who saves you from dad's wrath when he is angry..
Mom is the one who will bear anything and everything for your comfort..
Mom is the one who will think about your needs first even if she is in terrible pain..
Mom is the one who will not get angry even if you talk to her rudely..
Mom is the one who will not rest for a second until you recover from your illness..
Mom is the one who will pamper you like no one else does..
Mom is the one who instils morals and values in you that make you a good human being..
Mom is the one who will hide her tears and bear with every injustice,only to see you happy and contented..
Mom is the one who will pray for your happiness umtil her last breath..
Mom is the one who can go without food to satiate your hunger..
Mom is the one who can go without water to quench your thirst..
Mom is the one who can sacrifice everything just to fulfill your wishes..
Mom is the one who can become a father as well if necessary..
Mom is the one who will never forget your smallest of needs even in times of her discomfort and pain..
Mom is the one who cries when tears well up in your eyes..
Mom is the whole world for you....


Why, then, we children treat our mom as "somebody" ??
Why, then, has she become an obstacle in our life when she had to be the top priority??
Why, then, do we go against her and not see the good in what she says when she refrains us from doing something??
Why, then, cant we reciprocate the feelings of love, care and affection??
Why, then, cant we, for once, understnd that she is the one who will stand by your side in times of adversity??


I have seen and am saying from my experience that moms go through a lot of pain while bringing us up..
I have also seen that moms go to a great extent to hide their distress and pain so that we never feel the gloom..
Though, she never says, I can feel the vibes..
I can feel the pain she goes through..
I hate the fact that she has to go through so much because of us and for us..
                                                 Hats off to my MUM :-)
All you children out there, see your mom as a blessing of God..
Treat her with as delicate a behaviour as you would treat a new born child..
Never ever be rude to her please..
Give her a look of affection every time you look at her..
I can say from my experience that the first feeling that touches us, when mom refuses for something or goes against our will, is anger, repulsion, etc.......
I too feel the same..
But God has given us the power to control our emotions..
Make your love for mom so strong that the feeling of anger immediately changes to a feeling of understanding and affecion as opposed to misunderstanding and opposition..
Take time and think over what she says..
You will certainly find some reason behind her saying..
Even if you do not, just agree with her..
You will never go wrong then..
I can say this so confidently because i have gone through it..
I would like to share it with you all so that you also have confidence in what i said before..
My 2/2 exams were going on and i was very ill so could not study anything for a particular exam. I decided that i won't write the exam but my mom persuaded me to go and atleast attempt it. I reluctantly agreed because it was my mom who was saying me to do it. When i saw the question paper, i was almost in tears because i could not answer a single question completely. This was the first time i was in a situation like this. Somehow, i wrote whatever i could. It filled only 7 pages out of an answer booklet of 32. Now everybody might be thinking that i came back home and started blaming my mom for whatever happened. But this was not the case as i had complete trust in my mom. I knew deep inside my heart that nothing will go wrong and that is what happened when the results came out. I had cleared that exam with exactly the passing marks. I was elated, not because I cleared the exam but because my trust in my mom was right and it got proved too.. Now you might ask me a question that what would i say if i had failed in that exam. My answer would be that i would never have failed because i wrote the exam on my mom's insistence and even if i had failed i would say "whatever happens,there is a purpose behind it... We just need to have faith.".. Lets talk about that in my next post  IN SHA ALLAH...

FROM DREAMS TO REALITY...

Lost in my own fantasy land,
Walking with my dreams,hand in hand.
Searching,in every situation,for positivity,
I always shied away from reality.
Fog of illuson spread all around,
To my dreams,heart was always bound.
Atlast light of practicality dawned on me,
All the harsh truths,now i can see.
In my heart,there is immense grief,
Wishing deeply that this phase be brief.
Be it a test or a punishment,
I pray to God to give me strength :-) 

HUMANS,THAT WE WERE.....

Times have gone through changes so drastic,
Never was a human so emotionally robotic.


You either barbaically fight,
Or go,with a wooden expression,mime,
Why cant you see your fellow being's plight?
Why cant you make your thoughts rhyme?


Eyes are said to be windows to the soul,
It was so easy to reach the heart's concealed goal.
Why has it then become a Herculean task?
To grasp the feelings behind the mask?


For a soothing conversation,there is no room,
All that is left with you is a heart full of gloom.
Why dont you leave your ego behind?
And let your self-forbidden feelings unwind?


Life is moving at such fast a pace,
Every single soul is in a quest to become the ace.
Why cant you for once,stop making life a race?
And realise you may irrevocably lose a beloved face?


Times have gone through changes very drastic,
But its never too late to become a person,fantastic...:-)