THE FINAL DESTINATION...

"In a sense, everybody is aware of their final destination. Yet, it can't be denied that it is as mysterious as it is evident."


This is not my abode. I am at a loss when I try to describe "this". Ofcourse every sane human knows that this world is a place where one stops by to gear up for the "end" (or the beginning?). But even on this earth, "this" is not my dwelling place. I am not sure whether it has got anything to do with the residence of my visceral part. On second thoughts, it might even be the most important prerequisite for me to actually "live". A place, or more precisely, a state of my being where I can be directly connected and related to "THE ONE" has to be my habitation. As direct as it can't even be defined or put into words. Just felt. A feeling of excruciatingly pure purity. To be a part of that place, in this Illusion, which is the beginning of the "ultimate establishment" is a longing I had since everything started making sense (which is long long ago) and now I can feel it in almost every thought of mine.My objective, of merging with the other dimension (or so it may be called due to my inability to term it aptly) even while my time in this transient dimension is not over yet, shoves away all the restraining weakness.  But, I doubt my capability as I fail to start or I can say start and fail everytime I try. Yet satisfyingly, as though it is inherent, hope never dies and I cling on to it and try again with a new determination and a feeling of distant yet inevitable victory. Hope never dies! :)


And IN SHA ALLAH I WILL REACH MY FINAL DESTINATION.

WHAT IS FAITH?

Let's try to answer this apparently difficult question.....

"Whatever happens, happens for one's own good." This may sound very clichéd but on giving a little thought to this million dollar sentence, you can understand its depth and sophistication. Analyzing every situation, bad or good, of your life by keeping this in mind will make you realistic and will widen your mind's horizon with respect to optimism. I have come across many people who refuse to believe in it because they are not able to find any 'good' in a particular situation. My reply to such sceptics is that if we, humans, would have been given the power to understand reasons behind each and every happening in our lives, then we wouldn't have been called human beings. Not we, but God is the omniscient. The popular phrase "humans are mere puppets in the hands of God" is in itself the perfect answer to all questions borne out of a human’s logical mind. A simple fact that we fail to understand is that though our brains have come up with mind blowing technologies which are being called ‘godly’, there are a few questions and codes written by God that are indecipherable. I feel they are best left to our imagination. At this point I would like to quote a verse from the Quran-e-pak, "He knows what appears in front of and behind His creatures. Nor can they encompass any knowledge of Him except what He wills." Ultimately, all these points can be summed up into a small yet powerful word called ‘faith’. Faith does not require any reasons. There is no room for questions in the house of faith. Laying complete trust, confidence and belief in God and His doings in all phases of life, how much ever oppressive they may seem, is what I call faith.

It isn't an arduous task to assess a situation by keeping the cliche (whatever happens, happens for one's own good ) in mind.

Unless it's natural, implementing it will seem tough at first undoubtedly. But as the adage goes, "Practice makes a man perfect"( woman too! the joke seems so stupid now! lol), developing faith will also require practice. Gradually, you get used to it. And there will come a time when negativity will seem distant. Positivity will be automatically generated. And you will hear yourself saying, "It wasnt that difficult after all...Infact, it's easier than bearing the pain of pessimism.".

So, to make life worth living, let us all strive to make faith the basis of our existence in sha ALLAH....

Let us practise and feel the change. :)

CONSOLATION....

I struggle to give everything my best shot,

But,unfortunately, feel it is never a lot!

"Be Optimistic" has always been my anthem,

Yet there are situations,I can't fathom!

Eyes perceive only the external rebel story,

And unfortunately eclipse the unseen glory!

Despite the knowledge of my heart being virtuous,

There is never a lack of thoughts,a little vicious!

Efforts to make each and every soul contented,

Now,being prudent,make me feel indebted!

I have, forever,had a longing for empathy,

Is this a trait that attracts pitiful sympathy?!

All these conflicting thoughts make me very confused,

And,in me,a sense of vagueness is induced!

Inspite of the crazy heart-mind conspiracy,

The following truth makes me live in ecstacy.

God judges us humans by our intentions,

Though fellow beings just notice evil in our actions!!!

SYMPATHY VERSUS EMPATHY.....

On seeing people in difficult and problematic situations and conditions, an emotion, that we humans possess, comes itno existence. SYMPATHY. Out of sympathy, we try to help people in distress. But, we fail to realise that no human would like to be felt sorry for! Infact, every human longs for understanding......EMPATHY. You put yourself in that persons' shoes and then you will know what he/she is going through and only then will you be able to help that person truly.
An undeniable fact is that a human can never feel what another human feels but he/she can understand and share the feelings instead of feeling sorry. Understanding and sharing helps a lot more than feeling sorry for someone.
Sympathy will slowly fade away unlike empathy which will stay as constant as ever.
I am sure that the following line echoes the voice of each and every human:
" I do not want people to sympathize with me......empathy is what I long for! " :)


                             Don't break hearts with sympathy,
                             Join broken hearts with empathy! :) 

ARZ HAI.........

Din ki roshni par chaaye hue the gham ke baadal,
Raat ke andheron si kaali thi jahaan mein maayoosi,
Lamha lamha bechaini kiya karti thi mujhko ghaayal,
Pal pal takleefein ubhar aati tez nukeeli talwaaron si.


Kehte hain ummeed par duniya khaayam hai,
Par sochne ki baat toh ye hai,
Jab khaayam nahi ummeed toh kaise hogi duniya khaayam,
Lekin sochne waali baat toh ye bhi hai,
Ke ummeed chaahe khaayam ho na ho,
Duniya toh sadaa hi rahegi khaayam,
Kyunki ummeed ko khaayam insaan rakhta hai,
Aur duniya ko khaayam khuda rakhta hai.


Waakhif mai tab hui is baat ki haqeeqat se,
Jab bawajood ummeed khaayam na hone ke,
Din ki roshni par se hat gaye gham ke baadal,
Na rahi ab woh raat ke andheron si kaali maayoosi,
Har lamha bechaini ka badal gaya lamha-e-masarrath mein,
Aur leliya rang gulon ka pal pal ki takleefon ne.


Kabhi nahi socha tha maine,
Ke is ibteda ki intehaa laayegi khushi ka paigaam,
Par ye bhi toh laazmi nahi,
Ke aaghaaz bura ho toh bura ho anjaam!!! 

PARADOX!!!!

I put forward to all of you a question which may sound cliched but the answer to it is actually the truth of life that nobody can deny... Is luxury more important to you than emotional happiness??? Most of us will say 'no'... But I had read somewhere that "It is more comfortable to sit and cry in a mercedes than on a bicycle.".... After pondering over it for a while, I thought may be this was true...But this thought was momentary... After thinking about it for a little more time and after trying to imagine myself in various heart-breaking situations, I realised that this was not true....Infact I feel that crying on someone's shoulder,no matter whereever you are under the sky, is far more consoling than sitting all alone in a mercedes and crying wherein you are surrounded by all non living things though luxurious!!! May sound very dramatic but it's the truth.... Also, all the comforts and luxuries aggravate the pain and loneliness because you feel,"what is the use of all this magnificence and extravagance when you are all ALONE???".... We are humans and we have a heart which feels every emotion and money is not the thing that gives you true happiness....Although most of us say that luxury is what we desire, we cannot deny the fact that somewhere,in the deepest bottoms of our hearts, we long for that caring touch by our dad, the affectionate hug by our mom, the fights over silly issues with our siblings, the seemingly strict but protective nature of our brothers, the blessings of our elders, the happiness in our loved one's eyes on our success, the silent understanding shared with our friends, the feeling of joy when someone smiles because of us, the overwhelming feeling when we know that there is always someone there for you out there, the amazing feeling when your loved ones say 'i love you', the sweet gestures by people whom we don't even know, the words of consolation after a loss or disappointment, etc.... There is no way that any sort of luxury in this world can overpower the immeasurable happiness and emotional satisfaction that we derive from these small yet super powerful gestures.... Money comes and goes but feelings always remain no matter what....
But there are some exceptional people.....I really fail to understand the mind-set and thinking of those people who feel that they are done with their responsibilities by fulfilling the financial needs of their loved ones.... Is this the only thing that is of importance to them??? Don't they understand that feelings are also equally important??? All of this just goes over my head and I will never be able to understand this point of view no matter how many ever reasons are given to support it!!! There can never be a reason to justify it and I am absolutely sure of it!!! 
The only thing that I can do is pray that people with such a take towards life as mentioned above realise their foolishness and try to change for the better....IN SHA ALLAH...
And for the rest of us, I would like to say "never change,try gathering a lot of happiness for yourself and for everyone around you from the small things in life and never ever get upset if you get a feeling that you are not leading a luxurious life because that is not the real treasure."....
Think positive, be optimistic and never let that cute smile go off your pretty face :-) :-) :-)


Miljaaye gar koi hamein dil se chaahne waala, Aish-o-aaraam ki zindagi toh hum yun hi chod dein!!!

DO NOT OVERACT!

This post is particularly for me to remind myself not to overact and for those who think they are like me.. I have learnt a very important lesson...And learnt it the hard way.. " Be happy,make others happy but never be sad to make others happy!" May sound a little selfish but that is how it has to be to lead a happy and carefree life... It does not mean that you start ignoring people and being egoistic... It does not mean that you stop caring about others' feelings and start giving yourself extra importance... It just means that you should give a thought to your feelings too while trying to keep everyone happy.... Being kind does not mean that you end up in a state of depression.... Sounds absurd but it is not completely wrong... It happens... If you supress your feelings so that somebody else is happy or so that somebody else is not sad, there will come a time when these unexpressed emotions will turn into bitter ones and unintentionally hurt you and also the people around you...
I sincerely hope that nobody relates to this ever because the results are devastating...:-( :-( :-(
Now that I have found a way to come out of all this, I feel a lot happier and contented than before... With this positive feeling, there is also a feeling of regret because when I came out of this negative state of mind, I realised that I have missed a lot in these years... I have missed so many moments of joy....I can say that I had ruined everything in life with my own hands....Super sad on my part! But as it is said,life goes on,so mine also will...and in a normal way in sha allah..........
One thing that will keep me reminding not to overact is that there is no way in which I can make the whole world happy....Though I have an intention of doing so,it is not possible...So there is no use of building castles in the air....Everybody used to say that I was being imprudent...I know I was but didnt know how to overcome that until recently...And now I realise my stupidity and senselessness...But,better late than never........ So I told myself to stop overacting by trying to be the greatest and start behaving and thinking like a sensible human being....
I have begun to work on this with a hope that this change in me is for the betterment of everyone whom i love and, ofcourse, for me too!


     Har kisi ko mukammal jahaan nahi milta,kisiko zameen toh kisiko aasmaan nahi milta!